Pt. 2

So how did our perspective start to change?

We thought, given much of the media coverage of the plight of girls in many countries, that there was an overabundance of girls available for adoption.  Also, having 3 girls of our own, we felt like we might be a blessing to another little girl, giving her sisters to grow up with, so we had initially thought we might end up with another daughter.

But did you know that the current climate of adoption around the world is that families are needed for boys?  When we discovered this was the case in India, we opened our hearts up to the idea of a son.  Perhaps that was what God's plan was?  If so, we were excited about that possibility too!

Another group that came to our attention was children with special needs, or "waiting children".  I had always associated the phrase "special needs" with something terminal, or severe.  But there were so many other categories that come under this umbrella in the adoption community, including minor correctable medical issues, older children, and sibling groups.

But then, amongst the haze of wondering, and the same week we signed up with our adoption agency, a little girl showed up on their Waiting Child listing.  R & I each found her separately and said, "Hey, did you see that little girl...?"  "Yes!  I saw her too!"

She had some special needs that we felt we were open to.  Without seeing her photo, we felt our hearts tugged on in a unique way.  So we made some inquiries and received more information about her.

We consulted with our pediatrician about her case.

We talked.

Researched.

Prayed.

Waited.

Discussed.

Researched.

Prayed.

And as I waited and contemplated the implications of it all on our family, our lives, our story, I realized I was only looking at it from our perspective.

So I sat with this idea for a day or so.  I read a couple of articles that further moved my heart and I finally went to R and said, "I think maybe I'm looking at this all wrong.  Yes we need to think about the implications for our family.  But it can't stop there.  We also need to think about it from her point of view.  Are we the right family for her?"

(At this point I really thought it must take a certain kind of arrogance to go into a process like this and assume you're going to be the best option for a child.  Could we be arrogant like that?)

So my prayers started to change.  No longer "God, please choose a child for us..."

But,

"God, would you please choose our family for one of your children?"

And the more we prayed and waited, the more we realized how much we wanted to find out if He might choose us to be hers.

But as it turned out, we weren't the only ones.